Accepting people as they are

How often have we heard through various discourses, practices, books, people that we should "Accept People As They Are and Love Them For What They Are."

Let's pause for a moment and think what this really is..........Does it mean we should accept actions without a reaction? Does it mean that we should just move on without asking questions? Does it mean that we just accept certain situations with the person(s) in questions and not accept the ones that are deemed unacceptable (either because of society or our own value/belief/thought system or boundaries)?

The reason I ask these questions is because I have been asking the same questions to myself without any answers. What happens if someone tells you that they have accepted you for who you are and will love you for who you are but some of your action(s) or word(s) irk them? Does that mean they do not accept you for who you are or does it mean that that action/word of yours is unacceptable?

What happens if in a course of a day, you just feel like narrating the sequence of events to somebody and that person thinks that you are justifying yourself/your actions and that you do not have to? What happens if you are cold or in pain or just engrossed in thought and your body automatically goes into a hands-folded pose and that is being perceived as a hostile/ shielding-myself-from-the world-from-whatever-the hell-it might-be? Does it mean you are not being accepted or do you have to explain what you were doing/thinking?

All of us have a belief system or have been wired to interpreting some actions/words in some way because we are used to that system (and we are creatures that get comfortable with routine/ritual/familiar actions or words).Does that mean there is no other interpretation? Does it mean that another approach is wrong or there needs to be some kind of explanation offered?

So where is the concept of "Accepting people as they are and loving them for what they are"? This might come off as going off track but don't the differences in our actions/words/thoughts make us different or distinct? Don't they make us the individuals that we are supposed to be? If everybody has the same way of talking/writing/singing/doing whatever-else-that-might-come-into-your mind, won't we all be manufactured robots or dolls?

I understand that following/trying to follow the teachings of a leader might open up our mind and make our thought process clear but they don't necessarily make us any different than the person who has not undergone that experience. Maybe we apply the things that we have learned to some situations but sometimes we don't because we are too emotionally attached or maybe our perception or perspective is different.

I think that is what we should accept. Instead of accepting people as they are, we should accept that perceptions & perspectives to life and situations will be different and we should accept those differences & try to love & serve past those differences~

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